Rule #2- The Break-Up
Everyone is allowed a “get out of jail free breakup.”
That means no matter how fantastic the couple- at one time or another a break-up may occur. Maybe someone flips out. Maybe it’s too much too soon. Maybe someone doesn’t know what they want and they need alone time to figure it out. That’s fine. And it happens frequently.
Trouble begins after the second break-up.
Rule #2. Don’t return to a relationship after a second break-up.
“Rich and I are over,” Kelly says as she checks her cell phone for messages. I can tell she’s hoping he’ll call. “It’s just not working out.”
“Really? I thought you two were getting along?” I say. I’m trying to sound surprised, but they’ve split three times before. They’re way past the “get out of jail free” period.
“Nope. He changes in the beginning and then we just go back to the same problems. He’s a mess, he never calls me back, he comes home late and drunk…if it’s not one thing it’s another.” She sounds discouraged. “It’s just not meant to be.”
I agree.
“Maybe it’s not. But at least you tried. It shouldn’t be this much work. Hold out for what you want. You don’t want to forgive him, get back together and end up right back here in 6 months.” I add. “Kiss more frogs.”
“I know,” Kelly sighs. “It’s just much easier to fix what’s broken than to start fresh. In the beginning it always feels like we’re improving as a couple….” Her voice trails off.
If a couple splits a second time- it’s not working. No one is improving, and you’re right back where you started. It’s easier to try again than to be alone waiting for the right person to show up. Most couples give it a few weeks before someone gets lonely and throws up the white flag.
Weeks later they almost always regret it.
I did.
I broke up and got back together with “the drunken retard” three times before I realized it wasn’t going to work. Each time I promised it was the last. Each time he promised things would change. They never did. After the third break-up I swore I’d never go back. I couldn’t waste anymore time. I was exhausted.
“People don’t change.” I say. “Remember what I went through?”
“Yeah, how could I forget? That sucked.” Kelly responds. “I know, you’re right, People don’t change.” She says as she glances down at her cell phone again.
There are no new messages.
That means no matter how fantastic the couple- at one time or another a break-up may occur. Maybe someone flips out. Maybe it’s too much too soon. Maybe someone doesn’t know what they want and they need alone time to figure it out. That’s fine. And it happens frequently.
Trouble begins after the second break-up.
Rule #2. Don’t return to a relationship after a second break-up.
“Rich and I are over,” Kelly says as she checks her cell phone for messages. I can tell she’s hoping he’ll call. “It’s just not working out.”
“Really? I thought you two were getting along?” I say. I’m trying to sound surprised, but they’ve split three times before. They’re way past the “get out of jail free” period.
“Nope. He changes in the beginning and then we just go back to the same problems. He’s a mess, he never calls me back, he comes home late and drunk…if it’s not one thing it’s another.” She sounds discouraged. “It’s just not meant to be.”
I agree.
“Maybe it’s not. But at least you tried. It shouldn’t be this much work. Hold out for what you want. You don’t want to forgive him, get back together and end up right back here in 6 months.” I add. “Kiss more frogs.”
“I know,” Kelly sighs. “It’s just much easier to fix what’s broken than to start fresh. In the beginning it always feels like we’re improving as a couple….” Her voice trails off.
If a couple splits a second time- it’s not working. No one is improving, and you’re right back where you started. It’s easier to try again than to be alone waiting for the right person to show up. Most couples give it a few weeks before someone gets lonely and throws up the white flag.
Weeks later they almost always regret it.
I did.
I broke up and got back together with “the drunken retard” three times before I realized it wasn’t going to work. Each time I promised it was the last. Each time he promised things would change. They never did. After the third break-up I swore I’d never go back. I couldn’t waste anymore time. I was exhausted.
“People don’t change.” I say. “Remember what I went through?”
“Yeah, how could I forget? That sucked.” Kelly responds. “I know, you’re right, People don’t change.” She says as she glances down at her cell phone again.
There are no new messages.
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